Health & wellbeing
Health & wellbeing
I, or my partner, might be pregnant, what do I do?
The only way to make sure you (or your partner) don’t get pregnant is to use contraception correctly every time you have sex. However no form of contraception is 100% safe.
If you think you might be pregnant, it’s important to take a pregnancy test as soon as you can.
For more info on contraception, visit our page on Safe Sex.
Where to get a pregnancy test
- your doctor (free)
- a family planning clinic (free)
- a sexual health clinic (free)
- chemist or supermarket (around £3–10).
Taking a pregnancy test
To take a pregnancy test you usually need to wee (urinate) on the small plastic stick provided. You then place the stick back in its holder and wait a few minutes. A symbol will appear on the test to tell you whether you’re pregnant or not. You’ll need to read the instructions carefully as they can all be a bit different. If you take a test at the doctor’s, a family planning clinic or a sexual health clinic, you might need to wee (urinate) into a cup, and a test stick will be dipped in instead.
Who to talk to if you’re pregnant
There are people you can talk to who can help you make the choice that’s right for you. Get in touch with Ask Brook to talk things through.
Talking to your partner
Think about talking to your partner if you find out you’re pregnant. How do they feel about being a young parent?
Remember, a woman’s partner doesn’t have a right to decide if she carries on with her pregnancy or not. It’s her decision. So, you might want to chat things through with your partner, but don’t feel under pressure to do something you’re not happy with.
I’m pregnant. What now?
Becoming a parent
There’s lots of information and support to help you make sure you have a healthy pregnancy and birth.
Firstly, book an appointment with your doctor who’ll tell you about scans, appointments and how to stay healthy. They’ll give you a midwife and answer any questions you have.
Have a look at the NHS Your Pregnancy and Baby Guide for information on pregnancy, birth and beyond.
Gingerbread has information on benefits, money, housing and childcare for single parents and young women who are pregnant and living with a parent.
You might want to carry on with the pregnancy, but have your baby adopted when he/she is born. This would mean that your baby would have new legal parents and be looked after by them.
You can talk to your doctor or local British Association for Adoption & Fostering (BAAF) office for more information about adoption.
If you decide you don’t want to have the baby, you can have an abortion or ‘termination’. This means that you choose to end the pregnancy.
If you’re thinking about having an abortion, contact your local Brook service or if you have any questions Ask Brook.
Whatever choice you make, it’s important that you take the time to think carefully and talk things through with someone you trust.
Will my baby be deaf?
Just because you have a hearing loss, this doesn’t always mean that your baby will too.
About 1 in 10 children born to deaf parents are also deaf. If one parent has deafness and the other doesn’t and there’s no history of deafness in the family, the chance of having a child with deafness is about 1 in 20. It also depends on the cause and type of deafness you (and/or your partner) have, so the best thing to do is to talk to your doctor.
Can I get pregnant if…
…it’s the first time I’ve had sex?
Yes! You can get pregnant the first time you have sex, or the second, fourth or any other time if you don’t use contraception.
…the boy pulls out?
Yes! It only takes one sperm to get pregnant, and boys leak sperm before they ejaculate (come).
…I’m on my period?
Yes! There is a small risk and it depends on when the girl has ovulated.
…I have sex standing up?
Yes! There’s no ‘safe position’ – a girl can get pregnant whether she has sex standing up or lying down.
Need some more help?
Would you like more help or do you want to ask a question? You can send us an email in confidence at firstname.lastname@example.org.