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Being in a bad relationship

Health & wellbeing Information and advice Sex, relationships & your body

Being in a bad relationship

Health & wellbeing Information and advice Sex, relationships & your body

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I think I’m in an abusive relationship, what can I do?

It can be hard to talk about abuse and hard to know how to get out of the situation. Here are some tips on what you can do:

Listen to your gut

Abuse is not always easy to spot so listen to your gut. For example, someone could be very controlling (coercive control) but also really lovely in between, which can make it very confusing.

Talk to someone about it

If in any doubt, always speak to someone about it. You might feel worried about what will happen to you if you speak out, or that you won’t be believed. But there are people who can help. 

Tell a family member, teacher, friend or youth worker, or contact Childline. This is a free helpline for children and young people on any issue, including abusive relationships. You don’t need to tell them your name. Friendly counsellors will take your call and listen, or you can email. Childline Helpline: 0800 1111 (24 hours).

Stay safe

Make a plan of what you will do to get away from your abuser and stay safe. This can include things like memorising your best friend’s mobile number, keeping your mobile charged, carrying enough money so you can get away from the person who is hurting you, and thinking about how you might react if the person becomes abusive.

Check out Brook for more tips on getting away and safety planning. 

Contact the police if you're in immediate danger

If you’re being abused and are in immediate danger call 999 or use the emergency SMS service to contact the police. You’ll need to register beforehand.

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